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Vacation… Local or Abroad, It’s a Life-Changer and Quality of Life Enhancer

In Abundance, Career, Coaching, Goals, Hope, Mentoring, Prosperity, Success, Uncategorized, Vision, Vision Boards on 2014/07/24 at 5:13 pm
Are You Taking Enough Vacation? (Thanks trendhunter.com)

Are You Taking Enough Vacation? (Thanks trendhunter.com)

I’m having a fantastic  summer vacation this year. I don’t know how it came to be, but I’m loving it. I have actually marked days off on the calendar to PLAY!

What’s made the difference? I can think of a few things that may be the reason:

  • The weather : Something about the Polar Vortex has created a perfect mix of sun, breeze, open-air sleeping weather and a resort-like climate.
  • I am sorting efforts into four distinct categories: My non-profit work, my publishing and production work, taking care of my aging parents, and home (I took a week off of work and truly enjoyed a staycation).  I decided to re-route the merry-go-round. I have been go-go-going on this ride for years. I am also more mindful of my pace. I am sleeping more, “doing” less and transitioning to a less impactful physical routine (outside of my weekly travel between Chicago and Central Illinois).  I’ve been pounding the pavement from a business perspective and a workout perspective for a loooooong time. I’m ready to mix things up a bit here. I’m finding myself drawn to a gentler workout routine.
  • Finally: I chose, without apology, to take a little holiday from the disciplines I’ve  developed over the past few years (the goal of blogging twice a week, hosting a radio show every other week, planning my social media marketing plan 30 days out). Am a getting a bit out of practice? Yes. Is this a chance to step back and figure out the most productive use of my time? Yes!

I laugh as I re-read what I’ve written. I call this slowing down. Some people would describe this as a crazy pace. Whether I am slowing the place or simply issuing a re-mix is not as important as feeling re-charged and refreshed.

My challenge to you this week is to take a look at your pace and the ways you choose to spend your 24 hours a day. Might you be in need of some Holiday time? Need a little convincing? Here’s a link to trendhunter.com. They’ve got a slide show that shows the health and wealth benefits of taking time off.

If you’d like to share your findings, I welcome your comments!!!

As always, make it a great week…

~Tess

Copyright 2014

Destiny Rising, LLC

 

 

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Essential Elements of Success: #1) Belief

In Abundance, Career, Coaching, Destiny, Goals, Hope, Mentoring, Prosperity, Success, Transformation, Uncategorized, Vision, Vision Boards on 2013/10/06 at 11:02 pm

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Trust. Faith. Confidence. These are three keys to belief. Attending to the health of your belief in yourself and your belief in the outcomes you seek is critical to success. I often think of Belief as coming in two varieties. The first variety of belief is trusting in that which is unseen. This is belief of the “faith” variety. This belief may be built on previous success, knowledge of someone’s character or soundness of an idea or business plan. The second variety is the belief that grows from seeing results, or proof.  Building and maintaining belief is essential to accomplishment, and is needed in large quantities before the accomplishment arrives.

Take a look at your life, your career and your belief in your own ability to succeed. If you are in need of a boost in this area, enjoy the following video, narrated by one of my dear friends:  “You Are Special”

I welcome your comments and ideas on what contributes to or chips away at Belief.

As always, make it a great week!

~ Tess

Copyright 2013

Destiny Rising, LLC

4 Words That Make Your Vision Pop!

In Abundance, Career, Career Coaching, Coaching, Destiny, Goals, Hope, Mentoring, Prosperity, Success, Transformation, Uncategorized, Vision, Vision Boards on 2013/09/24 at 8:39 pm

I Love Pop!

If you follow my Pinterest site: pinterest.com/DRTessDenton, you know that I focus on a 5-phase process for building a powerful Vision: Clarity, Hope, Confidence, Momentum, Happiness.  I have a Pinterest site for each of the 5 phases.

As I prepare to publish a Vision Planner later this year, I have discovered my powerful words for Building A Powerful Plan to Achieve Your Vision has 4 distinct phases: Vision, Belief, Progress, Accomplishment.

The Vision Planner will provide a year-long plan for forwarding your Vision. You’ll begin with your overarching vision, account for your major goals, then decide what you wish to accomplish in the next year, each quarter and each month. Naturally, I’m skimming the surface as I post this. There is much more to the process and the product, but I wanted to begin talking about the 4-phases in my writing, my broadcast and my workshops to set the stage for the release of the planner.

These are busy and productive months for all of us. I hope that you are finding this season creative, lucrative and energizing. Stay tuned for articles and updates that leading up to the planner that will feature the 4 words that make your vision pop!

As always, I welcome your comments.

Make it a great week!

~ Tess

Copyright 2013

Destiny Rising, LLC

Taking Your Vision and Success to the Next Level

In Abundance, Career, Coaching, Destiny, Goals, Hope, Mentoring, Prosperity, Success, Transformation, Vision, Vision Boards on 2013/09/14 at 9:42 pm
Daily Schedule - Ben Franklin

Daily Schedule – Ben Franklin

In looking at the calendar today, I realized that I am nearing the 1,000 day mark for stepping into a more flexible lifestyle to support my goals in life. I calculated just how much time has passed since I started this journey. From and including: Wednesday, January 5, 2011 to and including: Saturday, September 14, 2013, 984 days have passed. I am reflecting on what I’ve accomplished in  2 years, 8 months, 10 days and what I need to illuminate, elaborate or eliminate in order to speed my journey and take my performance to a higher level.

I know that achieving a new level of success generally doesn’t happen on its own.  The “doing” in doing whatever it takes to succeed includes creating some new daily practices, even better planning and consistency of effort.

As is true of any endeavor I undertake, I research the habits of notable success figures to determine the ways in which I need to change my habits  to achieve more. As I’ve thought about this discipline thing, a Kahlil Gibran quote from The Prophet keeps popping into my head: “Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself”. The message in this quote for me is to create practice, habit and discipline, but not get so entrenched in the discipline that I drive others away or miss the joy of the journey.

Today’s blog photo is useful. It is one that I found on a blog post titled, “The Daily Routines of Famous Writers” (Blog title is  Brain Pickings). It is a picture of Ben Franklin’s daily routine. Since I was very young, I have been amazed by at Ben Franklin’s diversity, brilliance and zest for life.  The following is a list of Franklin’s accomplishments and areas of contribution  (compiled by Ralph Archbald,  famous for portraying Ben Franklin):

SCIENCE – Noted 18th Century Scientist

INVENTOR – Stove, lightning rod, bifocals and many others…

MEDICINE – Founded 1st U.S. Hospital

BANKING – Well known for maxims on thrift

AGRICULTURE – Introduced several crops to U.S.

PRINTING – Noted Colonial printer – “Patron Saint of Printing”

ELECTRICAL – Experiments and theories – Kite & Key

INSURANCE – Started 1st insurance company

HEATING – Franklin stove

COOLING – Had three methods of cooling

OPTOMETRIC – Bifocal glasses

POSTAL – First postmaster

LIBRARIES – Started 1st circulating library

PUBLIC SAFETY – Started 1st police department and fire department

MUSIC – Invented musical instrument – glass armonica

GOVERNMENT – Held numerous positions: Clerk, Postmaster, J.P., Alderman, Governor, Ambassador

MILITARY – Colonel in Militia

DIPLOMAT – Ambassador to England Minister to France

COMMUNITY SERVICE – Street lighting, paving and cleaning

UNIONS – Started Leather Apron Club

BUSINESSMAN – Owned and operated several businesses

PHILOSOPHER – Started American Philosophical Society

ABOLITIONIST – Started Society to Abolish Slavery

MERCHANT – Operated store as part of printshop

HUMORIST – Considered America’s 1st writer of humor

FORECASTER – Published Poor Richards “Almanack”

FUND RAISER – Originated matching contributions idea

SAILING – Designed “sea anchors”

CARTOONIST – Drew 1st cartoon in an American newspaper

LINGUIST – Studied several languages and designed a phonetic alphabet

CARTOGRAPHER – Mapped the Gulf Stream and Routes for the post office

MENTOR – Acted as a counselor and guide to many of his contemporaries

In Franklin’s time, days were counted in 24 hours, just as they are today. Excellent use of time and building in time for enjoyment were a priority for him.

My lesson for today is that time-blocking is not something that was introduced in the twentieth century.  Using Franklin’s example  I am examining  the ways I schedule my time, and making note of gaps between planning and actual use of my time.

This will be particularly useful, because I am in the midst of a new publishing project focused on Taking Performance To A Higher Level. I’m looking at elements of high performance from a variety of perspectives. Along the way, I am sharing some of my own practices for health, wealth and wellness. I welcome your contribution to this study. If you have practices you follow from which you think others can benefit, feel free to comment or contact me!

In the coming weeks, I’ll be posting ideas about  achieving new levels of success and speeding your way to your Vision. As always, I welcome your comments.

Make it a great week!

~ Tess

Copyright 2013

Destiny Rising, LLC

Getting to GO!

In Abundance, Destiny, Goals, Mentoring, Prosperity, Success, Vision on 2013/04/07 at 12:40 pm
Ready For The Challenge

Ready For The Challenge

Ready, Set…  Ready, Set…… Ready, Set….

If getting to GO! is a problem in your life, you have plenty of company. If you perpetually remain on the starting block, you go nowhere. You are safe from failure if you never begin. However, you are safe from success, as well.

There are many reasons why people do not get to GO!.  Today, let’s look at 4 key causes of hesitation:

Lack of confidence, lack of certainty,  lack of a plan and fear of abandonment often top the list.

  • Lack of confidence: Do I have the intellect, the ability and the personality to succeed?
  • Lack of certainty: Is this my best option? Is this what I really want? Where will this choice lead me? Should I keep researching other choices? Can I trust this company? Can I trust myself?
  • Lack of a plan: I do not know who to approach with my service or product. I don’t know where I’ll find a job once I make the move. I cannot lease an apartment without a job. I have enough money to survive for three months, and then my finances screech to a halt. I don’t know enough about this industry. I’ve never been a business owner before.  I need to know more before commit. I’m just a big ball of confusion.
  • Fear of abandonment: Will my family support my choices? Will my friends help me stay optimistic and provide their support and encouragement while I build my business? If I choose to leave a dysfunctional relationship, will friends and family take sides on the issue, leaving me lonely and feeling like the villain?

If you are uptight or breathless after reading the list above,  Clarity may be the tonic you seek.  I refer to Building A Powerful sense of Clarity as the foundation for achieving your goals and what you want in life: Clarity is energizing. It is refreshing to clear away doubt about the direction you are headed, as well as what you do and do not want in your life.

Rather than talking  yourself off of the starting block, steel yourself against doubt. Reaffirm your belief in yourself and your reasons for to taking the  leap of faith to pursue your passion or give yourself permission to start over.  Use the 9 Key Points listed below to regain your clarity about key decisions in your life. Then GO!

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” ~ Helen Keller

My Path/Decision:

  1. Skills and Traits I possess that will make me successful in my choice:
  2. Key Reasons Why I am Choosing This Decision/Path:
  3. How choosing this path will change my life:
  4. Experiences in my personal or professional life that make me uniquely qualified to succeed in this area:
  5. Skills and Traits I’d like to develop in order to be more successful in this area:
  6. The first skill I will develop:
  7. People whose advice I’ll seek on my journey:
  8. People whose advice I’ll ignore on my journey:
  9. What success will look like for me:

Make it a great week. As always,  welcome your comment!

~ Tess

Copyright 2013

Destiny Rising, LLC

Lifting Aching Hearts… Finding The Helpers

In Abundance, Career Coaching, Destiny, Goals, Hope, Mentoring, Prosperity, Success, Transformation, Vision, Vision Boards on 2012/12/17 at 11:25 pm
Aching Heart

Aching Heart

Renata Bower, whose book “Frieda B. Herself” , is a new children’s classic, posted a quote by Fred Rogers on her Facebook Page. Renata only posts really impactful photos, quotes and stories. I find the quote to be gentle, hopeful and filled with promise at a time when we are saddened by the loss of 26 at Sandy Hook Elementary School.

I  read that this quote has “gone viral”. I’ve only seen it one time and I now share it with you. Fred Rogers’ quote is an apt description of how Hope reasserts itself into our lives following a disaster. This quote is directly from Fred Rogers Company:

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” To this day, especially in times of “disaster,” I remember my mother’s words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world.

In the intro to  “The Mister Rogers Parenting Book”, he wrote, “.. if we can bring our children understanding, comfort, and hopefulness when they need this kind of support, then they are more likely to grow into adults who can find these resources within themselves later on.”

May you find ways to be a helper as you find and bring  HOPEfulness to your life and the lives of others.

As always, I welcome your comments and feedback.

I wish you peace today…

~Tess

Copyright 2012

Destiny Rising, LLC

Holiday Success Tools: Giving Thanks and Preparing For What’s Next

In Abundance, Career, Coaching, Destiny, Goals, Mentoring, Prosperity, Success, Transformation, Uncategorized, Vision, Vision Boards on 2012/11/23 at 12:23 pm

Make This Holiday Season Special

It is very easy, as the Holiday Season gets underway, to get pulled into the tide of wanting and waiting. We focus on the want list: a new dryer, new boots, a Bullet blender or an I-Pad. We often wait to commit to anything new in our ives until the new year. We write-off the month of December to holiday preparations, kids’ school programs and year-end parties.

As a holiday gift to you, here are some suggestions that may help you stay productive, balanced and in a place of appreciation for the next 40 days (today through January 1, 2013).

1. Build an Appreciation Board: Keep a running list posted of things for which you can give thanks this year. Add to it every day. Invite your family and friends to add to the list. This is intended to help you keep your focus on appreciation and gratitude rather than “gratitude” – the next shiny object  to buy. Start today, and keep the list going until New Year’s Eve*. It will impact your goals for the New Year. If you still have kids at home, this could be the start of a new family tradition. On New Year’s Eve, celebrate your blessings with a chili supper, a cup of apple cider or a sparkling beverage.

*As a bonus idea, begin by decorating a blank board so that it looks inviting, and take photos of the completed board so that you have a record of what is great in your life.

2. Keep a “Things I Want To Do and Ways 2013 Can Be Different” Journal for the month of December.  Why wait until New Year’s Eve to compile your list of resolutions for the coming year? Proper and Prosperous Planning takes time, and you’ll be well prepared to head into the New Year. Where can you find 5 to 10 minutes every day to slip in some “all about me” time? Here’s the idea… Sneak away from the kitchen after doing the dinner dishes, step away from watching TV,  or arrive at your coffee or lunch get-together ten minutes early so that you have a few minutes alone. Pull our your journal, and begin a new page of ideas about how 2013 can be a year of transition and transformation. This journal is yours and yours alone. Be honest and be bold in what you write.

The time you spend with your journal is not designed for hard-core planning. That comes next. Your job is to stay focused on possibilities.  On January 1st, I’ll be publishing a blog post with links to some prosperity planning tools that you can use to make 2013 a year of progress.

If you are looking for a gift for friends and family this holiday season, consider buying them a copy of my new book, Building A Powerful Vision Board. It’s a great and unique gift under $20

Change and Transformation – Elements of Success

In Abundance, Career, Coaching, Destiny, Goals, Mentoring, Prosperity, Success, Transformation, Uncategorized, Vision, Vision Boards on 2012/10/27 at 1:29 pm

I came across two very powerful phrases while at a business retreat last week: Change is doing things differently. Transformation is being differently.

The “change” statement  refers to activity or behavior and is something that can generally be outwardly measured.  The “transformation” statement refers to an internal shift and may not be visible to the naked eye, yet it is palpable – not only to the individual is being different, but to those around them.

Have you ever seen someone after weeks or months of being separated, and notice they are somehow different when next you meet?  In trying to pinpoint he change, we tend to work from the outside in. We begin by taking note of possible changes in surface elements, such as appearance. We slowly work our way inside – to the essence  or the aura, or the way the individual carries herself. While changes to our shell, our appearance are most evident, change in our attitude and demeanor are equally noticeable.

There are three key types of change:

  • Developmental Change
  • Transitional Change
  • Transformational Change

Developmental changes are those you make to improve procedures or activities that will complement your current lifestyle. Think of your exercise program. If you want to improve your upper body muscle tone, you add weight conditioning to your workout. Simple examples: If you think about diet, if you want change the percentage of your diet that is made up of an additional 25% raw foods, add a salad at two meals daily. Development changes generally cause little stress and distress.  In professional settings: Learning new skills that will improve your performance or prepare you for promotion are good examples of developmental change.

Transitional changes are those you make to replace existing approaches or activities with new ones. A replacement example: use olive oil rather than butter in cooking. Eat celery and carrots rather than potato chips. You’ll retain the enjoyment of something crunchy, but it will be a healthy change.   Instead of sitting down and eating ice cream each evening right after dinner, take a twenty-minute walk and reward yourself with a cup of tea.  You’ll be changing you diet and your lifestyle.  In professional settings: If your company has become part of another organization, learning a new software system or learning how a new supervisor wants reports and information communicated are examples of transitional change.

Transformational changes are those you make to completely reshape your life. It is this level of change in which we create sustainable momentum toward getting the life we want. When you’ve achieved transformational change, you have grown, you have stretched, and you will not be reverting to your former way of looking at or approaching life. It is at this level that people often develop the ability to take the long view on life and business, on action and consequence.

Many people arrive at the threshold of transformational change after attempts to transform their lives through changes in surroundings, friends and activities, with little significant result. They discover that a quick fix will not fundamentally change your life. They discover that  transformational change is a journey, not an activity.

Awakening to your transformational journey is refreshing. It’s like opening the windows and doors to let the fresh air circulate through your house after a long winter.

I am in the midst of some self-reflection and examination. I’ve spent the past year and a half “reinventing” my professional focus. I can tell you what I’m doing differently, but that is all information about what has changed on two levels: My business activities and my lifestyle activities (travel, workout, diet). It’s time for me to pinpoint fundamental changes in my way of being to determine whether I’ve just been on a whirlwind trip or if I am on a journey – a path toward transformational change.

If you are asking yourself similar questions, I have three books I’d like to recommend. The first two were published a number of years ago. The books are: The Four Agreements (Don Miguel Ruiz), Women Who Run with the Wolves (Clarissa Pinkola Estes) [2 of my sisters just returned from a 5-day retreat with Clarissa and simply raved about her insight and authenticity), and my own book Building A Powerful Vision Board: A Path To Achieving Your Goals and What You Want In Life [This book leads you through a process of clarification, creation and action to advance on your path to fulfilling your personal/professional goals].

I’m enjoying my journey and making plans to focus on the transformation and not just the action elements of my life in 2013.

As always, I welcome your comments, and make it a great week.

~ Tess

Copyright 2012, Destiny Rising, LLC.

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